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She’s… so pop-u-lar!

Sometimes I think adoptees have some kind of latent telepathy or hive mind thing going. Not seriously, of course, otherwise by now we would surely have formed a vast conspiracy controlling the world’s economies for our own nefarious purposes while simultaneously maintaining a façade of lost souls on the internet trying to figure out who and what we are. And that’s just ridiculous, no way such a thing could be true! Hahahahahaha! Such a silly idea!

But anyway, one of the things that’s been on our hive mind a lot lately (here, here, and here–the Vietnamese team takes all three medals in this event!) is anger and bitterness, and how these ways of describing (and dismissing) any adoptee who harbors any negative feelings about adoption at all just won’t go away. I’ve written about this too (several times now), and I would fall over from shock if there haven’t been a dozen others, but it just won’t go away. It’s really frustrating! Some variant of “angry adoptee” shows up just about every day on the search engine hits for my blog, and I don’t know if it’s from some adoptee who really is angry looking for like minded folk, or what.

It’s tiresome and I’ll try to shut up about it, or maybe just find a way to joke about it, but I know I can’t really let it go as long as I keep encountering it. Like misheard lyrics to a popular song, the idea of the angry/bitter adoptee just keeps coming back again and again no matter how many people we try to correct, no matter how thoughtfully and carefully we try to explain. I guess it’s just the cross-eyed bear that you gave to me.


Thinking of moving to Blogger.

I am getting a little frustrated with WordPress. I know, I’m using a free service and I really shouldn’t bitch about it so much, but it really bugs me that there are all these themes that are great if you want to look cool and edgy and show off lots of personality, but totally suck ass if you want people to be able to actually read your text without developing eyestrain.

What is so hard about serif fonts that aren’t dinky or light? Small, light, sans serif fonts are fine if you’re only subjecting people to two paragraphs a week about your cat. There are only two themes that really have decent, readable fonts, one of which is butt ugly if you don’t buy CSS customization and the other (Sapphire, the one I’m using was using at the time of this entry) doesn’t have sidebars on the individual post pages, just the main page (otherwise it’s perfect). The sidebar even has a Home link on it, even though it’s pretty much only going to show up at Home! Aaargh!

Anyhow, I’m trying to see whether the things that annoy me about Blogger annoy me less than the things that annoy me about WordPress, or if the WordPress folks will be kind enough to provide a theme for those of us who want to show off our content rather than just our really cool header images and fancy widgets. I’d just make do without the sidebar, but my stats show people coming in to read individual posts and since part of the purpose of this blog is to provide support for adoptees who’ve found a grave in their search, I’d really like to have some relevant links on every single page, plus maybe links to a few pages I could write up specifically for that purpose.

Then again, maybe everybody’s switching to Google Reader or some other RSS reader service or client and this won’t matter.

Anyhow, this is just a heads-up that a move might be in the works and a chance for me to vent some frustration. Also, if anyone can suggest some specific themes from the theme list (not the ones on, I’ve already gone through those, ick!) that I can request rather than the vague request I already made (a clean, light theme with dark, not teeny-tiny serif fonts and a persistent sidebar), I’d appreciate it.