It could filter out such phrases as ‘Primal Wound”,or “the fog”.

The thing that always makes me sad though is when these kids get online someday and find their parents blogs in whatever the future archive.org or google cache will be, and see pictures or videos of themselves crying or in those horrible “Made in China” onesies while mommy smiles obliviously

You’re right that they should be scared, some of them are their own worst enemies.

ROFL

Wink-wink, nudge-nudge. Heh heh.

Many adoptees go through a lengthy period of feeling just fine about being adopted. I certainly did. Having my own child is largely what caused me to reexamine adoption and how I felt about it. The “variety of emotions” are what different people feel at different times.

Also, in the social sciences, most research that tries to privilege itself over actual experience by the population in question is utter crap. I suggest reading Herbert Blumer, Erving Goffman, and Harold Garfinkel on how to find out what’s really going on in social worlds.

You didn’t “go bad” at some point. People react differently to similar experiences, that’s all. I’ve spent the past ten years (since my mid-teens) researching adoption and have found a wide variety of emotions involving adoption. It’s no one’s fault. I have feelings about certain things that happened in my childhood that could have been easily prevented, but I find people all the time who feel completely different about a similar event that happened to them, also.

I’m sorry to have offended you.

You don’t know what the “bottom line” is because you do not live it.

It is not so simple, and I am not an adoptee who went bad or something like that. Please, do you really read my blog or just skim it?

I am generally a happy person. I have a good life. I doubt anyone watching me playing with my daughter at the park would say, “Man, that guy’s angry!” Saying that adoption has had a negative effect on my life is not the same as being angry about having been adopted. I am not angry about having been adopted. For fuck’s sake, how many times to I have to write that?

Also, my adoptive parents were not dishonest or total idiots. They were pretty ordinary. So I am not some “angry adoptee” who was brought up poorly by idiots, okay?

The only things that make me angry are denial of basic civil rights to adult adoptees, the revolting practices of the international baby trade, the coercive practices used on natural mothers, the dehumanizing discourse of adoption, and that the sort of people who are largely responsible for that discourse (adoptive parents and industry shills) are actually entrusted with other people’s children. In my opinion, these are things that should make any person of good conscience angry.

I really do appreciate your comments and I am glad you read my blog but I am worried that I may not be coming through clearly on some of these things.

I plan on adopting someday although I could probably have biological children. My reason is simply that I don’t feel like creating a life and bringing it into a world where children need homes. The money spent on maternity clothes and leftover hospital bills could be put toward adoption expenses for a baby who would otherwise not have someone to call Mom and Dad.

I hope to expose my kids to the dark side of adoption but at the same time, urge them to NOT feel “lucky”. It is a ridiculous burden to place on any child and I am not that psychotic to think that I would be some hero for adopting.

Anyway, this is SO irrelevant to the original post.

But I guess the bottom line is that some adopted kids grow up to be angry, and some are perfectly happy. As long as the adoptive parents can be honest and not total idiots about the matter, the latter is very, very possible.

And I feel like anyone who calls their child a Guatling or a China Doll needs to step away from the bong.